There have been incredible changes in my life the past few months. Not only have I moved to a serene desert hideaway, but I've been finding cool art supplies, organizing my new work space, hanging with good friends and nesting. I recently found a fab thrift store in Palm Springs and stocked up on lots of craft books, weird cat books, healing books and home improvement manuals. One of the books I found titled "You Can Heal Your Life" mentions that you have to LET GO/forgive in order to heal yourself and move on to more exciting things. This mantra has been one of mine since I first opened my clothing boutique Show Pony in 2000. I used to always remind myself to "Let Go" , go with the flow, don't take everything so serious, lighten up, be happy. I even made some t-shirts with this mantra back in 2002.
This book goes into detail about how harmful it can be to hang on to old regrets, anger, grief, betrayal, toxic friends, cheaters etc... I believe in that theory, and I have always believed what you put out into the world you get back. I think that negative relationships have an effect on us. Although it can often be hard to abandon old ways of doing things, I think it's important to believe in yourself and keep moving forward. Since I have been on vacation from work, I have taken a lot of time to think about what really matters to me. I've tried to be more aware and appreciative of the people that are important to me, and what truly makes me happy. These days are always going to be precious to me, when I look back. Such a magical feeling out here. We are sleeping in, playing with the cats, making changes to this place, and enjoying meals outside at our big table.This has been a heavenly year. I love my life. This May 15th it will be a whole year that my hubby and I have been married! I am amazed and grateful for the great friends that we have, the incredible job that I LOVE, and this home that (as of today) we officially OWN! Sometimes you have to trust that you know what you really need. You have to be able to let go of things that no longer suit you and make some space for good things and new stuff to come in.
Don't forget tonight is the new moon in Taurus! Which means you should make your move towards what you want out of life... Check out my friend MARCELLA's BLOG for more details
Another plus to living in the hi-desert is that you can wear pretty much anything...including weird caftans. The weather up here has been breezy and warm. I suppose since we are so high up it hasn't been that hot yet.
I get what you are saying. It is not an easy thing to let go. There is freedom in letting go, but what makes it difficult is that we people cling to desperately to our comfort zones. Even if those comfort zones are unhealthy. One day at a time — one neurosis at a time is the way to go I suppose.
Posted by: Melissa G | May 03, 2011 at 08:36 PM
I am such a fixed sign. Always hard to make changes, because I cling to comfort zones. I've been getting better as I get older. This is the first year I really feel like I've unloaded some negative heavy baggage. It's also been a bit easier to get rid of things from my past. There has been a big weight lifted off of me lately. :)
Posted by: kime | May 03, 2011 at 09:17 PM
Kime, LOVE the platinum blonde hair... esp. these fotos of you against the flower print. Gorgeous.
I've also had a year of leaving my ghosts behind. A book thats magical and changed everything for me is The Power of Now. Since reading it and practicing the meditation techniques, I've started shaking my ghostly anxieties off and feeling so much freer. I always felt haunted by all my past traumas, but after reading it and practicing meditation everything changed. I would have never believed a book would have done that for me. It is something I continue to go back to and reread to bring myself back to The Now when I find my old memories coming back.
Posted by: lise.silva | May 04, 2011 at 11:50 AM
I will try and find that book! thanks so much for telling me about it. And thanks for loving my new blonde hair. It feels so much thicker since I did this (damage I'm sure does that, ha) xoxo
Posted by: kime | May 04, 2011 at 08:37 PM
you should make some more of those shirts..and the "i ate the whole thing" ones too
xo
Posted by: Vinny and Vernelle | May 04, 2011 at 08:37 PM
i just found that text from the original screen "I ATE THE WHOLE THING" I really should resurrect those gems. I don't even own one of those ones.
xo
Posted by: kime | May 04, 2011 at 09:00 PM
that heal your life book is sooo awesome! It helped me through some rough times a few years back. ps, I LOVE yr hair, it makes me wanna start coloring mine again, so bright and lovely!
xo m
Posted by: Mindy Sue B. | May 04, 2011 at 09:17 PM
I love Louis L. Hay, that is a great book! I also listen to her audios. Love, love, love this post.
xoxox
Posted by: cassandra | May 05, 2011 at 09:45 AM
We mus be cosmically connected somehow . . . I've been going through similar dealings (loss, nesting, friendship revelations), and changed my locks back to blond around the same time as you, and celebrated my wedding anniversary on May 3rd (which I didn't realize was the date of the new moon!) It sounds like you are in such a dreaminess. Next time we're visiting the desert, it would be awesome to get together for tacos.
P.S. I whole-heartedly agree with the comment above that 'The Power of Now' is one of the best meditation inspiring, positive-vibed books around.
Kisses from our country cabin in NY! ~ J.B. Taylor
Posted by: J.B. Taylor | May 05, 2011 at 03:01 PM
I miss you Jennifer! Please please let me know if you are ever out this way and want to stay with us!
Congrats on your wedding anniversary- seems like years and years ago you told me that fairytale proposal. I just ate the black and white tacos at ricochet the other day. xoxo
Posted by: kime | May 06, 2011 at 10:22 PM
you have always been such an inspiration to me. Thank you for putting your positive energy and beautiful spirit out to share!!
Posted by: lets play fascination | May 09, 2011 at 08:19 AM
Louise Hay is a charlatan. She used to intimate that AIDS was caused by gay men hating themselves and in the very book you promote, she suggests that cancer is (or should be imagined/interpreted as) being a product of "not letting go." That is a damaging, irrational, and pressuring belief she espouses.
If you believe in letting go, I'd suggest letting go of magical thinking and unimaginative superstitions. There's nothing wrong with a little healthy mysticism--the brain comes up with lovely symbolism, dreams are healing in and of themselves, but pre-prescribed New Age thought exists to sell books to uninformed people. Please don't promote it. You're too creative and cool for that! If Louise Hay had half the knowhow you do, she wouldn't be the egomaniacal pseudo-savior she has made of herself.
Posted by: Nehra | May 30, 2011 at 06:53 PM
thanks for letting me know. And I apologize if my post is upsetting to anyone who reads it. I obviously haven't extensively researched all of her opinions, and am not promoting that people cause all of their own illnesses. I simply was going through a lot when I moved out here, an 18 year friendship ending, the loss of a pet, and some stress related health problems...the book was recommended to me and some if made me feel better. Thats pretty much what I felt. And weirdly some of what she said resonated with me and my family at that particular time. I appreciate your comment.
Posted by: kime | June 04, 2011 at 08:45 PM
Heres a piece of advice let go when youre hurting too much, give up when love isn't enough, and move on when things arent like before. Surely there is someone out there who will love you more.
Posted by: Tutoring Jobs | November 16, 2011 at 10:43 PM
Congrats on your wedding anniversary- seems like years and years ago you told me that fairytale proposal. I just ate the black and white tacos at ricochet the other day.
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